You have a best friend that you haven’t even met yet. And Guess what? It’s you! Find out how you can start being your best friend and know that you always have someone there who’s got your back
We all can be hard on ourselves at times, criticizing ourselves for things we have said, things we have done, or even things we haven’t done. Is this how you would treat one of your friends? Probably not. Why do we show compassion and acceptance to our friends, but then when it comes time to forgive ourselves we aren’t so kind? It is time for everyone to start being their own best friend. How good would it be if you had someone cheering you on at every stage? Someone to pick you up whenever you fall down. Someone to tell you its all going to be ok. Well lets find out who this magical person is and how they can help you take your wellness to the next level.
Why do we need to be our own best friend?
Everyone needs a best friend, and I’m sure that most of you have one. But what Im talking about here is a best friend that is with you all the time. And not one of those creepy friends who never wants to leave, but your own mind. Now before you say that this sounds crazy, believe it or not most of us are our own worst enemy. Whenever we do something wrong, or we miss out on an opportunity, we are quick to snap that we should have done this or should have done that. We often have double standards, showing fairness and compassion to our friends, but being harsher critics to ourselves. So if it is possible to be criticising and harsh to ourselves, then it’s also possible to be kind and supportive to ourselves.
How do I become my own best friend?
It’s really simple, yet really hard to do. The first thing you need to do is to forgive yourself for every mistake, missed opportunity, wrong decision, time you made yourself look silly, and thank yourself for being who you are. If this was a friend, you would forgive them, and probably make a joke out of it and have a laugh. Time to do the same with yourself. This is not an easy first step but once you pass it you will be well on your way.
Treat yourself like you would treat your own friends
So imagine your friend has just had a relationship breakup and is down in the dumps. What would you say to them? You would tell them how it’s all going to be ok, and how they will find someone better anyway. This is the kind of compassion and self love you need to show yourself. If you’ve had a bad day, tell yourself that it’s all going to be ok and that tomorrow is going to be better. Have a laugh about the funniest part of your challenging day, just like you would do with your best friend. You might have double standards where you forgive your friends for their mistakes and failures, but put yourself down for the same things. Do you think you might have perfectionist traits? Find out 5 reason’s why you can’t be a perfectionist by clicking here!
Start giving yourself the positive talk and inspiration you need.
Ok now it’s time to take your friendship to the next level. Not only are you going to stop criticizing yourself, and start showing some compassion, but now you’re also going to be your own cheer squad. Fill yourself with positive self talk. You are now your best friend, and you are going to give yourself the confidence you need. If something goes wrong, have a laugh about it with yourself. Sit there and have a chuckle. No one knows you better than you do, so why not enjoy your own friendship. You are your number 1 supporter, so it’s time to start acting like it.
Start being your best friend today!
If you’re still reading this post that means I haven’t lost you which makes me happy haha. Ultimately being your own best friend means to treat yourself like you would your own best friend. Have a bit of fun with it and help remove any pressure and negative self talk that might go on in your own mind. I can assure you that if you take action on some of the things mentioned above, you will become your own best friend, and you’ll find that you will enjoy the highs a lot more, and support yourself on the lows when needed. Don’t take yourself seriously and have a bit of a laugh. I am sure your overall health and wellness will thank you for adding another best friend to your friend circle!
About the author – Stef – Mental Health Advocate
Stef is a mental health advocate who dedicates much of his free time to improving his own and others mental health. Click here to have a read about Stef’s story and why he is so passionate about mental health, wellness and positive living.