It’s not easy to let go, I know. Learn how to let go of the things that hold you back from happiness and watch your mental health improve radically.
Bad things happen in life. Fact. But what happens next is up to us. Do you find that you hold on to something that has happened to you for far too long? Maybe a friend let you down, you failed to reach a goal, or you were wronged in some way. Whatever happened we need to learn from this experience and move forward with our lives. Trust me I know that it is not easy to let go, but sometimes letting go is all we can do. Letting go is something in our control that can empower us to make change and improve our mental health. In recent times I have had a few people talk to me about how they are struggling with something in their life that they can’t seem to let go. There is good news and bad news. The bad news is that this struggle is coming from holding on to something that is not good for them. The good news is that they can learn to let go and free themselves from the pain. This is for those who want to learn to let go.
PS – if you like this post and want to read more of my writing, check out my book, Redesign Your Mind – which is about living as a young person and overcoming challenges of anxiety, depression and negative thinking. It is my story, and includes some of the tools I used to ‘learn to let go’. Click here to find out more.
It is not easy to let go
The first step to letting go is to acknowledge and accept that it is not easy to let go. I know that whatever happened to you will hurt, and thoughts will continuously flash through your mind about the pain – but that’s ok. You were hurt and it takes time to heal all wounds. What is not okay is ruminating the same negative thought patterns consciously day in day out. We need to short circuit these negative thoughts by sitting down and writing down the positive thoughts that came out of this situation. Even if you can’t find anything positive, there will always be something you learned that you can use for the rest of your life.
By letting go doesn’t mean that we forget it happened
Some of the people I have talked to have been hurt by someone else and found it hard to forgive them. Forgiving someone actually does more for you than it does for the other person, so the sooner you can let go and forgive the other person (or yourself if it was something you did), the sooner you are going to feel better about yourself. By forgiving, it doesn’t mean that you forget it ever happened, but it means that you can now work on what you are going to do next, instead of feeling like a victim or guilty for what happened. Empower yourself by forgiving and moving forward.
Anger, resentment, frustration, disappointment and loss are all a result of not letting go
Do you harbour any of these negative emotions? It is ok to feel these emotions for a short period of time, but really they do not serve us in any positive way. I am yet to find a person that can demonstrate how holding on to these emotions helps them with anything positive in the future. So what is the point of holding on to these emotions? You know the answer. By letting go, you will free yourself of this pain. Check out the blog for more on how to cope with these emotions, but one post I suggest you read is how you can find happiness by showing gratitude.
Letting go will increase your happiness
Do you want happiness? Yes? Of course you do! Do you think that holding on to whatever happened will allow you to feel happiness? Of course not! Applying this simple question and answer to the problem can help us realise that we are doing ourselves harm by holding on to this. We can also ask ourselves if whatever happened is still going to bother us in 5 years time. If the answer is no, then you know that you might as well let go of it right now and save yourself any more pain.
Write a journal and rewrite your thoughts
I know that learning to let go is easier said than done. That’s why we need to get it off our chest. Writing a journal is a great way to let it all out which will help with letting go. Your journal is a way to tap in to your subconscious and freely write about what has hurt you, helping you move forward. You can also focus on writing down your negative thoughts about the event, and then rewriting new thoughts with something more positive. Eventually by answering these negative thoughts on paper, our minds will start to automatically answer the negative thoughts in our head, helping us to fight back and improve our mental health!
Let go today and watch how your mental health improves
Guys I know that it is not easy to let go, but you need to ask yourself if it is worth it. Do you want to let this one thing bother you for the rest of your life and stop you from feeling any happiness or joy from the good parts of your life; or would you rather move forward and enjoy the rest of what life has to offer. Learn to let go and thank me later.
About the author – Stef – Mental Health Advocate
I am a published author with my book, Redesign Your Mind. I write to help people with their mental health. Through my story I hope to help others on their journey to a positive mindset. Click here to find out more about my book, Redesign Your Mind and how you can order a copy through Amazon. A portion of every sale is donated to mental health organisations to help raise awareness of positive mental health!